Grief can slap you in the face with shock, jolt you awake with terror, or knock you into an emotional coma. It can also bore you to tears, make you pee your pants laughing and even awaken your sexual desires. Just ask Rebecca Soffer, author, former producer for The Colbert Report, and co-founder of Modern Loss, an online and IRL community of people who “share the unspeakably taboo, unbelievably hilarious and unexpectedly beautiful terrain of navigating life after a death.”
Whether through the death of a loved one, the ending of a relationship, or even the shattering of your faith in humanity – everyone experiences grief and loss. And, for those of us with hearts that stretch across oceans to reach our far-flung “nearest-and-dearests”, grief has its own particular flavor.
I met with Soffer, via Zoom, to ask her about loss and grief in the digital age – particularly for those of us who straddle culture, race, ethnicity, nation, or location.